What I am about to say, of course, is quite anecdotal in nature, as I don’t really have any intention of backing this up with a bunch of data, and studies, and other highfalutin intellectual data that all the different sides of an issue such as this claim to have. I’m not really that interested in YOUR data either. I only speak to what I have experienced, and what so many of the boys I grew up with experienced.

The absence of fathers in home in this country is a problem; it is a HUGE problem.

Other than that, I personally don’t have much to say, as this song in the post pretty much says it all. I remember, some years ago when I first heard this Everclear song, thinking somebody had reviewed the reel of my life and written a song about it. I actually got to hear them perform it once live that the Pyramid in Memphis. I remember sitting in a venue full of rockers, shaking and crying as the words of it poured over me.

I never learned how to be a Dad, and honestly I sucked at it. My Mom did a really good job of teaching me how to be a person; she taught me how to survive, and she taught me how to be a productive member of society.

She never taught me how to be a Dad

She couldn’t. She WASN’T one

I sucked as a Dad

Don’t get me wrong, my kids are just fine.I didn’t totally suck.  I taught them the same things I got taught. I taught them how to survive, and I taught them how to make it. They have done both very well.

What’s missing then? It’s that relationship thing. I can’t even really explain it. We have one, and it’s cordial, yet….distant. I love them; they love me. But….it’s distant. It’s about the same I had with my own parents.

I have a Father now, though. I also have a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Yeah, that’s right, my Heavenly Father and His Son Jesus Christ. Know what else? He wrote me an instruction manual that teaches men how to be a Father.

I got a second chance to be a father. I certainly have not been perfect, but I have certainly done better. That’s all our Heavenly Father asks really, is that we listen to Him and try to be who He made us to be.

“Father Of Mine”

Father of mine
Tell me where have you been
You know I just closed my eyes
My whole world disappeared
Father of mine
Take me back to the day
When I was still your golden boy
Back before you went away
I remember the blue skies, walking the block
I loved it when you held me high
I loved to hear you talk
You would take me to the movie
You would take me to the beach
Take me to a place inside that is so hard to reach
Father of mine
Tell me where did you go
You had the world inside your hand
But you did not seem to know
Father of mine
Tell me what do you see
When you look back at your wasted life and you don’t see me
I was ten years old
Doing all that i could
It wasn’t easy for me to be a scared white boy in a black neighborhood
Sometimes you would send me a birthday card
With a five dollar bill
I never understood you then and I guess I never will
Daddy gave me a name
My dad he gave me a name
Then he walked away
Daddy gave me a name
Then he walked away
My dad gave me a name
Father of mine
Tell me where have you been
I just closed my eyes
And the world disappeared
Father of mine
Tell me how do you sleep
With the children you abandoned
And the wife I saw you beat
I will never be safe
I will never be sane
I will always be weird inside
I will always be lame
Now I am a grown man
With a child of my own
And I swear I’m not going to let her know
All the pain I have known
Then he walked away
Daddy gave me a name
Then he walked away
My dad gave me a name
Then he walked away
Performed by Everclear
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